If you recall last week in Men and Women: part 1 I made the claim that men were designed by God to be illustrations of His justice and were therefore designed to be dangerous by nature.
By contrast I asserted that women were designed as illustrations of God’s grace and are therefore designed to be beautiful by nature.
Because there is also an enemy playing a role in the story, and enemy who can only twist truth and not create it, we explored the idea that men were often duped into being dangerous in the “wrong way” and wound up being dangerous to themselves, their loved ones, or not at all.
But this same enemy also dupes women into focusing on being beautiful in the “wrong way”. The beauty that God designs into ALL women is NOT physical appearance. it is something much more. Granted, the world runs on the notion that beauty, and beyond that sex, sells but that should come as no surprise. Scripture refers to the enemy as the prince of this world.
Imagine for a moment that this notion is correct, that men are supposed to be dangerous, in a spiritual sense, by design and women beautiful, spiritually, by design. Now think of the way truly, amazingly, stunningly physically beautiful women are often described. We refer to them as “dangerously beautiful”. I’m saying this is no coincidence.
The notion of a dangerous beauty is a standard theme found in literature across cultures! It could easily be argued that this overt focus on physical beauty alone results in something much more akin the the spiritually masculine than it does to the intended feminine!
But it gets even worse.
The women’s lib movement of the 70’s resulted in women rejecting stereotypical beauty for a much more masculine approach to life in an attempt to even the playing field in the corporate world. So in either case we wind up with women becoming masculine…NOT good.
I freely confess that I am treading in deep water here. I do not lay claim to any secret knowledge when it comes to understanding women. But as I read the scriptures with this lens in mind a clear image does start to emerge.
If God does indeed intend for women to be beautiful by design as illustrations of His grace what does that look like? Fortunately scripture gives us a glimpse of just such a woman in Proverbs 31. Let me suggest three characteristics of the beautiful woman taken from that description:
She has a confidence based on conviction
The passage describes her as being of noble or virtuous character. Many commentators have this translated as something akin to: a strong, capable woman with strong convictions. There isn’t anything weak or fainting here. It is a picture of strength that comes from something beyond a shallow self confidence based on looks. This is a deep well of conviction.
She has a healing touch
Remember Princess Diana? She was one of the most beloved royals of all time specifically because of how she cared for the poor and less fortunate. Truly beautiful women can heal with a word. Their touch brings life. True some are more gifted at it than others, mostly through practice, but I believe all women have this gift by design. As illustrations of the grace of God women, all women, carry within their very nature the ability to bring healing. It is almost magic.
Kids get this straight away. When they’re scared they go to dad, he’s dangerous! When they get hurt they go to mom, she’s the healer.
She uses her gift on behalf of others
In C.S. Lewis’ The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe Queen Lucy receives several gifts from father Christmas including the gift of a healing cordial that can heal any wound with but a single drop. Her sister, Queen Susan receives the gift of a magical horn that will summon aid when need is most dire. Lewis was tapping into these same characteristics, this idea that women bring healing and help to others.
On of the advantages of having grown up in the church is that I spent a lot of time around people from multiple generations. I have known, as I am sure many reading this post have known, older women whose lives were spent in ever deepening relationship with God, whose words brought healing to others regularly. These women draw us to them like the smell of cinnamon bread coming out of the oven. The very lives are a healing fragrance. Their physical appearance is superfluous!
By contrast we’ve all come across women who strive to maintain their fading physical beauty. To be fair some succeed and while they may be nice to look at, unless they’ve come to grips with this true sense of spiritual beauty, they’re not as much of a joy to be around.
As I said I’m either treading IN deep water or ON thin ice, depending on your choice of metaphor so…
Ladies, your thoughts, what does it mean to be truly beautiful?